i feel like everyone here has their own personal code for what they will and won't post or boost in regards to content warnings and it think that's good and valid and also really interesting and basically what im saying is i wanna see everyone else's tooting style guide
@pbandkate two spaces after a cw
@pbandkate well, i try not to boost anything garfiald says
@pbandkate i'm chicago manual but i know a lot of people on here are ala
@pbandkate i dont boost content that includes intense ideation, pictures of or descriptions of food, gore - real or fake, nudity, or eye contact - as a general rule. outside of that i sort of have an internal "this is too much" sense in regards to other people's horror posts.
usually people are good about CWs for most of that stuff though for some reason shitposters are really bad about the 'food' one and i have to not boost a lot of stuff because of it.
@Zoe yeah food is a funny one for me and actually is what prompted this post, because despite what it may seem i have very specific reasons for what i do and don't cw. like, if i'm talking about *eating*, i CW it, but if i'm just mentioning the name of a type of food i dont, because i figure if someone has a specific food trigger of just hearing about that kind of food, that's something that can be muted pretty easily 🤷
@pbandkate never anything about assault whatsoever. never pol (thats for birdsite unless youre talking about arson). always boost questions that havent gotten a comment, always boost friends being happy about stuff, always boost to be supportive. Whether or not i boost lewd stuff is depending on who i see on the TL right now
@pbandkate i'm curious as to how my tooting style comes off honestly. i'm thinking "feral ADD teen"
@pbandkate CW for food, violence, sex and the passive voice
I always boost selfies of women and enbies, even if it is super lewd. My only rule is that I often wont boost selfies if there is weird editing (like lines over faces), I figure anyone doing that is prioritizing privacy.
After that it is really a question of “do I think people should see more of this kind of thing?”
I personally find boosting trans women selfies important because seeing them has vastly improved my visual diet and self-image. Our images need more normalization.
@pbandkate I will boost pretty much anything Cwed, reply or fav unCWed things (sometimes I remember to add a CW, but I'm not great at it and have to hope since people will only see it if they were following someone who would post it unCWed it's fine), will post just about whatever but I will delete and add a CW if I forget and notice
@pbandkate I'm a maximalist. If I've seen it content warned before, I try to content warn it myself. I don't always remember, but I do make the effort to adapt.
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@pbandkate boosting selfies makes me feel extremely weird and creepy, unless there's something really cool about it to override that feeling, like they're wearing chainmail, or their sweater has a picture of a bird wearing the same shirt they're wearing under the sweater, or they did a perfect laser impression
- fave stuff i appreciated or want to find later
- boost stuff i think people should see
- post whatever comes to mind as noteworthy
aside from that, like... i mute lewd stuff and electoral politics bc i don't want to see it. i also mute aggressive people. i tend to consider other people's sensitivities when boosting un-CW'd stuff.
that covers 99% of my account i guess
@pbandkate most of the time i wont boost without a cw just because. but usually defaulting to not boosting anything with ppl or gifs that arent tagged b/c i tag my stuff for that and i feel like it would be unfair to ppl following me if i boosted things that werent in line with that.
@root yeah i feel like the biggest trend I’m seeing is that people only boost stuff that fits the parameters of what they’d post themselves
@pbandkate hmmmm i have been debating this with myself a lot recently!!!
a lot of the shitposts that i love have a raw horrific un-CWed power that i wanna boost, but is it worth upsetting my mufos???? probably not!!
for my own posts i try to use common sense, and like having had an ED and addictions and shit I know how important it can be to CW even small things, but it's a lot harder to curate other people's content,, idk
@pbandkate tl;dr my tooting guidelines are pretty much "overthink the hell out of it, then get frustrated and fling toots out haphazardly into the ether"
@scribblefrog yeah i mean i think the bigger point of this post is to highlight that like... i think it's ok that we all have our own styles and codes we follow, and i actually *don't* think it's everyone's responsibility to necessarily curate their own posting to everyone else's needs — that's what mutes and filters are for. like i think it's good that we have a general community culture, but i think it's okay that we all handle things a little differently based on our own sensibilities!
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@pbandkate i cw myself pretty strictly (i think) but i also boost a lot of people i think are funny who don't cw very much, and sometimes i feel kinda bad about it.
cw 'policing' is tough and complicated because i can feel sympathy for people who don't wanna see super gross lewd un cw'd posts, but also don't want to mute or block an otherwise nice person and good poster they like. but its hard to be the 'can you please cw this' person telling someone else how to post. idk 🤷♂️
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@lennie yeah it's really complicated! if anything i think this responses to this show that people *do* think about this stuff pretty seriously, and i think even if we all land in slightly different places, we're all doing it with at least some thought which is more than can be said than about literally any other social media platform
@pbandkate i think i CW my stuff really carefully and only boost well CWed stuff too. i also try to boost only captioned pics. i reply to un-CWed posts though and only CW if i'm replying with something that needs one
@pbandkate i dont tend to cw posts that are obviously not serious, and tbh im not sure if this is right, but it feels comfortable to me. so yeah, for example i'd probably cw something to do with my actual kinks, but not a clearly For A Joke shitpost. hmm. things to do with trauma, serious MH shit, actual discussion of ED/Self harm/sexual assault etc. is gettin cw'd to fuck tho.
@hanny yeah this is pretty close to where i land actually!!
@pbandkate like weird jokes about cum or whatever just feel too fuckin childish and non serious to cw? it feels like im giving them more than they deserve. idk. lol.
@hanny right, like a big barometer for me is, if the post includes a word that i would use *as* the cw, i don't cw it. so like... if the post includes the word "cum" but it's not actually lewd, i'm not gunna cw it "cum," i'm just gunna post it, if that makes sense
@pbandkate what's a cw
@pbandkate the thing I struggle with is replying in threads that don't have CWs, because it'll show up on my feed, but if I add a cw, there's an implicit "you should have tagged this" that I'm not comfortable with
@lemoncarrots ugh yeah, i'll a lot of times add them, esp if i'm like, talking more in depth (ie, someone mentions a food in a shitpost and i want to talk about that food in more detail, i'll add one) but yeah i never want it to come across as like, tsk tsk, which it sort of inevitably does
@pbandkate I try to CW liberally (lol) but for some reason I have a hard time with it if all I'm doing is mentioning a food item
I also don't like to boost if I think a post should have a CW and/or if there's an image with no description
@pbandkate i never boost selfies without CWs
i don't generally CW jokes unless they're either
a) really gross (but i don't post many like that)
b) potentially not obvious that it's a joke, and i don't want replies that think i'm serious
i tend to CW stuff as "long" if it's over 1k characters but i occasionally forget to
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@pbandkate sometimes I'll use a cw and wonder if anyone actually needs it, which bothers me because I spend a lot of mental energy trying to sort out all these rules, and I really don't want to throw spoons at something for no reason
and there are some really popular people here who barely ever cw their shit, and it makes me wonder why I bother (I know why I bother, but I still feel it)
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@lemoncarrots yeah that's like... a little why i wanted to make this post. and like, where i fall with it is basically i do what feels right to me, and i want others to do what feels right for themselves. and like, i'm ok if someone unfollows or mutes me bc they dont like how i post! i've def muted people bc of how they use or dont use cws, and i think that's ok!
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@pbandkate I keep wondering how big the fediverse is going to get, and how connected it needs to be and in what ways
you can only keep up a certain number of relationships (dunbar's number) and I already follow more than that, so I'm comfortable saying my feed isn't for everyone, but in what ways?
I don't want to exclude people who need a food cw, but what about people who need a cum cw? that feels different to me
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