I'm so not here for dunking about how men as a whole are terrible. Like, I've been there, I get where it comes from, I get that there are all sorts of mental exceptions about The Few Good Ones and such

And I've also heard repeatedly from trans men and other transmasculine people how intensely damaging that is for them and I refuse to just sideline so much of our communities like that

(Yes the goalposts can then be moved to "dunking on cis men" and this is a personal prejudice I still struggle with being better than at times so I get it. But even then we are erasing a lot of intersectional considerations by acting as if all cis men--regardless of race, disability, security, etc--capture the same segment of Toxic Masculinity that we are angry about.)

(I'm trying to focus on behaviours when I speak more. And its okay to notice patterns, such as when I am wary when my instagram account gets followed by an apparent cis guy in the military with a locked profile. But noticing patterns and discussing them isn't the same as the "men are terrible" be-all and end-all posts I see getting tossed around)

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@tibius @AzureHusky its the most boring excuse for a personality and it scares the shit out of me, and yet so many people in my vague sphere of online queer furry seem to think its good

@daylight @tibius I'm seeing segments of transbian-fediverse that seem to be really into this and it makes me sad

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